Another Chance for Love

holding handsSo, you are divorced or widowed and you don’t want to be alone anymore.  What is it like to start dating again?    It is really best to take your time and not jump into the first situation just because you want to be settled again.  .  You can have an ‘interview’ of sorts with potential partners, while you learn more about yourself, your needs, and what and who works best for you.  You want to  meet that special one to spend the rest of your life with; someone with whom you share the same goals, and  with harmony between you that just flows easily.  How do each of the Zodiac Sun signs relate to their partners?

Aries:  The first time they were probably the stronger marriage partner because they always enjoy being needed.  But probably now they are tired of that situation and want to have a partner who is more of an equal.  Known to be impetuous and rush into things, being a little older and wiser, they probably will take their time before rushing into anything this time around.  They like their independence  but are now willing to give the same to a partner.

Taurus: They stay in marriages and try their best to make them work, knowing change is taking a risk.  But if it’s the second time around, they look for financial security as well as physical love and someone who enjoys food as much as they do.  They like the time they spend being on their own and dating, and they usually go slowly, waiting for the person who fits into their life effortlessly.

Gemini: After a failed marriage or losing a partner, they probably enjoy the dating experience and really like being single and do not feel a strong urge to remarry.  If they had to struggle to fit into a relationship and it was too demanding, they want to leave.  When they feel ready to  try again, they know that they probably won’t be typical. They look for someone who is easy to be with, yet interesting and easy to talk to.

Cancer:  Divorces really devastate them and they take a long time to heal.  They slowly start socializing and open up a little at a time. They do remember how nice intimacy can be.  They also remember how good it feels to cook a nice meal for someone who appreciates it.  Eventually they will feel ready to marry someone who will love and cherish them and they want to reciprocate in kind.

Leo:  Sometimes they grow apart from their partner through the years.   As they mature and gain greater confidence, it’s easier to find someone a bit more independent, who will not cling to them nor will they expect a devoted audience from the partner all the time, as they did in their younger days.  They learn that adult love is true appreciation of each other.

Virgo:  It is so difficult for them to find a partner who meets their criteria.  But when they do and it ends for one reason or another, they doubt they can find someone else to measure up to their high standards.  Eventually as they mature, they learn to let go of being so picky and focus on the important things and they do find another partner.  They learn not to nag so much over trivial stuff, which might be the reason for the failed first marriage.

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Libra:  They love storybook romances and living happily ever after.  They soon learn that real life intrudes and reality often breaks up the partnership.  They continue to idealize the other person and think they won’t find anyone like that again.  They should use their minds and intellect a bit more, rather than indulging in too many fantasies, as they seek another partner. They need to find someone with mutual interests which can then lead to moonlight and roses and a relationship that will last.

Scorpio:  They need a deeply satisfying relationship and it’s painful for them to let go and reach out again.  But they eventually do, as they realize intimacy is better the older we get.  Maturity brings the knowledge of how to respond to a partner on all levels.  They learn to stop the games and power struggles that they always enjoyed.  Developing a sense of humor along with a desire for depth and intensity can help them to be ready to find the right one.

Sagittarius:  In their first marriage, if the partner tried to tie them down and keep them home, they finally learn enough about themselves to bypass that scenario the second time.  They believe that love is about the heart, not about the license, so they can enjoy being with someone without a contract. If they do think about possibly marrying again, it’s because they find someone who so fascinates them, they want them to always stay around and perhaps they marry, or maybe not.

Capricorn:  Being status conscious, they may have chosen their first partner to advance financially, socially or professionally.  Without enough shared love, these marriages end.  With maturity and reaching their own achievements in life, they learn to marry for love, pleasure or personal enjoyment.  They lighten up and get younger in spirit, yet always tend to keep a sensible outlook on life.

Aquarius:  Being naturally rebellious and independent, they may avoid intimacy and  find themselves in an early marriage that feels very threatening to their freedom.  After some time, through the dating scene, they may develop a friendship with a person who doesn’t feel so threatening to them.  They build greater intimacy and eventually realize that they are indeed connected, married or not.

Pisces:  In an early marriage, they felt obligated to always be there for the partner and put their own needs last.  Eventually, with maturity, they realize they can’t do this anymore and retreat either emotionally or physically.   After some time of growing independence. they find someone who understands them; someone with whom they are unafraid to reveal themselves and then they can be truly happy in a relationship.

Being single again has its benefits.  It forces people to figure out what it takes to be in a relationship.  Many people remarry, believing that this time they know what is required to make a marriage work.   Hopefully, they take enough time to learn this.

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